I love that Diet Dr. Pepper song. It's the first thing that popped into my head when I decided to quit smoking. I've also decided that I'm not going to say that I will "try" I will quit. Though I might be buying some Nicorette gum and not going cold turkey. We'll see.
My entire life I've believed that I could do and be anything I wanted to do and be. And for the most part - that's been the case. I set a goal and a I do anything it takes to achieve it. I've worked toward things, actively for decades. But lately I've been not even trying. There are lots of reasons for that - some valid - some excuses. But I feel myself pulling out of a fog and regaining my sense of self. And as I do that I am regaining my confidence and my pride and my drive. Because I think for those who know me well, driven is an adjective that could always be used to describe me. Whether it's a drive to be the best mom in the world, or to get my degree, or to learn how to sew well enough to make a purse, I do it it.
Back a few posts ago I wrote about synchronicity. And that there were a lot of people telling me not to be too hard on myself. And I'm trying really hard to not be. But at the same time I'm feeling better about myself and life in general and I need to expect more out of myself. There have also been a lot of people telling me I need to "follow through". This is what I will do.
Old thought: I don't want to take on too much. What if I fail?
New thought: (And something I've always tried to live by but lost along the way.) The only failure is not trying.
Upon reflection, I decided that people telling you not to be hard on yourself isn't very good advice. I think being "hard" on yourself, or what I am equating to "pushing yourself hard" is something you've always done..like you said, you set a goal & you are driven to achieve it. So keep setting high expectations of yourself & push yourself hard to achieve them. My "new" advice to you: When something doesn't go right or the way you had planned, don't be too CRITICAL of yourself!!! Even extraordinary people have setbacks..if you don't believe me, just look in the mirror. (*reflection* One very extraordinary person going through a setback)
ReplyDeleteAnd on reflection. I think that is what most people meant. Don't be too critical of yourself. That's hard though. I'm a harsh critic.
DeleteI'm sure you're most probably right, but in some situations I think "how" something is phrased is particularly important. But you know how anal I can be about things so maybe my advice to myself should be, don't be too critical of others..lol And you definitely are your own worst critic. We share that trait!!! But I love that you are on the track of changing/breaking old habits & developing new ones. I'm going to put "being too critical" on my list.
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