Being positive is important. Thoughts can change reality. Think about it this way. If you don't have dreams or aspirations you are walking through life. To change and improve I believe we first have to imagine it. Once you've imagined a new reality then you can begin taking steps to make that dream into a reality. It may happen and it may not. But the only real failure in life is not trying. Good outcomes and bad outcomes or even neutral outcomes teach us all something.

Sometimes though I can't be positive. And I have to realize and internalize that it is okay. I don't have to be a people pleaser. I should not be a people pleaser because it never works and just diminshes me one crumb at at time.

Old thought: What can I do to make you happy?
New thought: What can I do to make me happy?

The reality is we can't "make" people happy or be anyway. It's each persons responsibility to care for themselves. I've just realized that trying to please everyone means I please no one.