I am a proud feminist. No surprise for anyone who knows me. But somewhere along the line I came to the conclusion that being a feminist meant that I had to be able to "do it all". Personally I blame this ad. :)
Yes, it's necessary to be self-sufficient and able to do anything that needs to be done. But who said that because I want to and enjoy working that I have to do everything else as well. This study shows that men's contribution to the housework has increased to almost 1/3rd! Woo! Given the phenomenal increase in working women this is still sad. But I digress.
Somewhere deep in my psyche I feel like a failure because I can't do it all. And more importantly, I don't want to do it all. And this makes me feel like a failure. It's funny, I believe that the only failure is not trying - I do. But when I do something I want it to be right. I would rather do 10 things exceptionally well: be a mom, my job, writing, etc. .. then be mediocre at 30 things. And that's all right.
Old thought: I have to do everything myself.
New thought: I am no less of a woman for not being able to "do it all". Or not wanting to "do it all".
I need to learn to better manage my time and to unload or share those things that I don't have time to do well.
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